L is for Love at First Sight

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I really am a fan of the “Love at First Sight” romance trope.  I’ve written several stories and novels that have characters who see the man or woman of their dreams and Boom, it hits them like a ton of bricks.  This is the one!

I hadn’t really thought about why this trope is one of my favorites until I looked at the date of this post:  May 24.  That date stands out to me each year because that was the date I fell in love at first sight.  When I was 13 years old.

My cousins had a beach band and they played a Battle of the Bands on May 24th.  I went to see them with two of my girlfriends (under the chaperonage of my aunt and uncle), so excited to be out at a “teen” function for the first time.

When the band finally played we were all attention and I noticed for the first time the very

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cute singer in my cousin’s band.  And I mean Very Cute!  Youngest in the group (I later learned he was 15), he was my dream come true.  When he opened his mouth to sing I began to melt.  Then the band performed “You’ve Made Me So Very Happy” by Blood, Sweat, and Tears and at the end this dreamboat went down on his knees.

And that was it.  I fell hook, line, sinker, boat and motor in love with him.  I have always been a sucker for romance and theatre and that little gesture went straight to my teenaged heart.  The crush lasted for several years and I was never very subtle about it (that thought makes me cringe to this day).  The band broke up and I didn’t see him for probably fifteen years.

One Christmas we re-met each other, went on a date, and that was it.  Fizzle.  No spark, no chemistry.  Don’t get me wrong, he’s a great guy, and I do see him occasionally when the band gets back together to play.  I smile when I see him, secretly pleased to have had that ‘love at first sight’ experience.

That experience was so intense that I can still feel the depth of emotion I went through as a teenager. I’m able to tap into those emotions and channel them into some of my writing.

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The infatuation Alyse feels for Thomas at the opening of Betrothal is based in part on my own first-hand experiences of a “crush.”

So May 24th will always be special to me. Do you have a certain date or a love at first sight experience?  Please share on my special day!

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11 Responses to L is for Love at First Sight

  1. My husband claims it was love at first sight when he saw me. I think he just likes to say that to make me feel good 🙂

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  2. jzguzlowski says:

    Henry James said something like he falls in love at first sight about 12 times while walking the space of a single block.

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  3. Sheri Fredricks says:

    I feel in love at first sight twice: once for Hondo, a horse I had, and the other when I saw a car I ended up buying – a Camero. The Hubs? Well, he took a few dates to for me to claim love. Great post!!

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  4. lizaoconnor says:

    Laura, I was concerned that you both might have committed bigamy. Thanks for clarifying that. I can see the appeal to falling in love at first sight. You get to pass all the angst moments, does he like me? Am I scaring him off? etc. I don’t think I ever fell in love on sight. I’d remember that, right?

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  5. I’m not wonderful at date, but I have to say when I first saw my husband, I knew I was in trouble. I did everything possible to push him away. I was going through a painful divorce, and my son was 18 months old. Just under two years later we married. That was almost 30 years ago.

    I love love at first sight. Or at least lust at first sight.

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  6. danijace says:

    I have a thing for the best friend trope. It might be because my husband and cousin were best friends when I met him.

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  7. karenlopp says:

    I never fell very hard for my first crush. But when I met my husband that was it. And we just celebrated our anniversary yesterday.

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  8. I love your recounting of your love at first sight experience. It made me think about my own experiences, and I came to realize that I’ve only “fallen in love at first sight” with one person, but I was 15 years old. I would, undoubtedly, not feel the same way about that fellow these days because, although I did not fall in love with him upon our first encounter, I am madly in love with my husband. I can’t imagine being with anyone else; they’d all fall far short of the mark.

    Thanks for providing such thoughtful fodder for contemplation. 🙂 L was a very good letter.

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  9. Daryl Devore says:

    Great love a first sight memory.

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  10. Laura says:

    I forgot to add (just in case someone wondered) that we were both LONG divorced prior to reconnecting! LOL

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  11. Laura says:

    I met and fell head over heels for a boy (and he for me) when we were both 17. We dated for several years, were engaged, and for reasons that seemed valid at the time, we didn’t marry. We both subsequently married others, had kids, lost contact for 17 years. We reconnected 3 1/2 years ago, but unlike your situation, neither of us had ever gotten over the other. We married March 6, 2010, and have been incredibly happily married for a tad over 3 years now.

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